So many people believe that Valentine’s Day is merely a commercial holiday. Sure, it’s capitalistic in nature. Hallmark makes a killing. Greeting cards fly off of the stands, leaving only scraps of mismatched envelopes and cards with boring or unfunny messages that no one wants…for last minute shoppers. Godiva and Hershey’s mass-produce their heart-shaped delights. Women indulge in their tasty treats, sometimes trying each and putting back the not-so-tasty ones, leaving a box of one-bite chocolates set in front of a happy smile. And, don’t forget the champagne and wine makers that fill us with a slight buzz, just enough to enhance the romance in the air.
I agree that it’s a silly holiday in many ways. Why only celebrate your love on a holiday that industry simply circles on our calendars? But, I do believe that Valentine’s Day has another beautiful purpose, if you look beyond the material aspects of it. It reminds us to put aside the hustle and bustle around us and focus on the present. It’s a day of love meditation.
I never felt this way, when I was single. I used to think it was a holiday set to remind those who are single…that they are just that…single. To a certain degree it was a cruel reminder that love was not in the cards for me that year. So, I did my best to ignore it or bought myself a bottle of wine and chocolates and indulged in them, claiming it was a day to remind me that I didn’t need anyone. Or, I would go out with my girlfriends and embrace our friendship. The later being the better choice in celebration. Less calories and more cardio from all of the dancing.
My husband and I met ten years ago and were married six years ago. When we first met and throughout the years, we would often listen to music and sip on wine or beer. It was our thing. So, when we were planning our wedding, it seemed only suitable that our party favors would be a CD full of the music we loved. The songs all had meaning because we loved music and we love each other.
In recent days, things have proven tougher for me, than in any of the ten years prior. To me, music is a nostalgic timeline of life. Songs and artists represent whatever I was feeling at a given time in my life. And, I thought when we created that wedding CD, I understood how the lyrics applied to us. I was wrong…
I never truly understood the meaning of our wedding favor, until recently. I catch one the songs on the radio or on Pandora. I now listen to them more clearly than ever. It’s like they went from standard to high definition over the years.
The lyrics of that CD have become a timeline of our lives together. The songs were picked perfectly. It’s like we wrote the script, when we created the CD, but are acting out the parts as times passes.
So, on this Valentine’s Day, I share my favorite lyrics from some of those songs to thank my husband for still loving me after all of these years. I thank him for teaching me what true love is…after we got married. I am so lucky to call him my “husband” and my daughter is so lucky to call him “Daddy”. Here’s my Valentine’s Day mash-up for him:
Thank You (Led Zeppelin)
Little drops of rain whisper of the pain, tears of loves lost in the days gone by.
My love is strong, with you there is no wrong,
Together we shall go until we die. My, my, my.
An inspiration is what you are to me, inspiration, look…see.
Fix You (Coldplay)
When you try your best but you don’t succeed
When you get what you want but not what you need
Stuck in reverse
And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can’t replace
When you love someone but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you
God Only Knows (Beach Boys)
If you should ever leave me
Though life would go on believe me
The world could show nothing to me
So what good would living do me
Such Great Heights (Postal Service)
I am thinking it’s a sign that the freckles
In our eyes are mirror images and when
We kiss they’re perfectly aligned
And I have to speculate that God himself
Did make us into corresponding shapes like
Puzzle pieces from the clay
If I Ain’t Got You (Alicia Keys)
Some people want it all
But I don’t want nothing at all
If it ain’t you baby
If I ain’t got you baby
Some people want diamond rings
Some just want everything
But everything means nothing
If I ain’t got you
You’re My Best Friend (Queen)
Ooh you’re the best friend that I ever had
I’ve been with you such a long time
You’re my sunshine and I want you to know
That my feelings are true
I really love you
Oh you’re my best friend
Ooh you make me live